MARRIAGE vs LIVE-IN

Its human nature to go against the rules and the irony is that rules are also made by us.One of such rule is made by us for marriages.Specially in India marriages are considered as a necessity of life.But things change with time.The success rate of marriages is too low.There are very few couples who live happily together.Most of the couples live together but they are not the soul mates.They have differences but only because they are afraid of society,they don't be apart.Sometimes when things get out of the level of tolerance,divorces happen.

But this is the best quality of humans that we are so adoptable,we create problems for us and ourselves find the solutions for them.To avoid carrying marriage as a burden,we have found a solution for this also.That is called 'LIVE-IN'.Last week,in a case,Supreme Court has said that live-in relation is not a crime,Actually it comes under the 'right to life'.If two adults live together willingly there is nothing wrong in it.

In my opinion too,live-in is better than getting married to someone whom we don't know,we don't love.Its better than a relation in which we have to carry a bunch of relations unwillingly.Its better to live freely than living in a bonded family.

But...as everything,this is also not a perfect solution.It also have some loopholes.Let's check out some...

Changes are good,But things which are followed for centuries,can not be changed abruptly.Live-in, can be proved very difficult for a woman in the Indian society,where most of the woman are dependent.If they broke up,it can be very difficult for them to survive and face the society.

The second problem is about kids.What would the kids do if their parents broke up?Who will take the responsibility to grow them up?To give this burden only to the man is not fare because both the parents get into the relationship willingly,so they both should be considered responsible for that.

But the ultimate thing is,whatever the way we choose,the most important factor to live that relation is true love,trust,honesty,and respect for each other.

Whether we choose to be in married life or live-in these factors are the basis of all relations,if there is no honesty,true love and trust,we can't put up with any relation.In the absence of all these things every relation is useless and its bound to be broken.

UNWANTED SUFFERING

The politics decide the present and future of any country,It is the responsibility of the politicians that they should use their political talent for the progress of the nation,but in our country,politicians waste whole their energy on small issues.They have no interest solving the real issues of the country.

The latest example of this is the presence of Amitabh Bachhan at the inauguration of the Bandra-Varli Sea link.Congress has reacted on this issues as the C.M. of Maharashtra has committed a crime.Their problem is that Mr. Bachhan has recently met the C.M. of Gujrat,Mr.Narendra Modi,and became the Brand Ambassador of the tourism of Gujrat.which is ruled by the BJP.

Now congress wants to know from Mr.Bachhan,what is his stand on the involvement of Narendra Modi in the riots of Gujrat,which were happened a few years back there.What the hell is this! Why they are asking this question to Mr. Bachhan?What he has to take with all this?He was invited to become the Brand Ambassador of Gujrat Tourism and he accepted it.What wrong he did?

The reaction of congress was so childish at the incident.Being a national and ruling party they should show some maturity.If BJP is your opposition party,why you let a innocent person suffer?

This is really the shame for the country that the biggest and the most respected star of the nation is ill treated like this.Actually people like Mr. Bachhan have become a soft target for every one,whether these are political parties or news channel.Everyone give them a character certificate made by them.Political parties has divided the celebrities without their permission.

But the most of the troubles are faced by these celebrities.They are involved in the controversies against their will.They became so insecure that before saying anything they have to think about their statements a thousand times.Every statement of them is presented as a sensation.

This is the nature of law that no one can make everyone happy.Ones' happiness causes others' suffering.If a star who living in Mumbai says that he love Hindi he is blamed,If he says that his country comes first for him,he is still blamed.If he become the Brand Ambassador of a state which is ruled by the opposition,again he is blamed.I mean,what he should do man! If he doesn't do anything for the country he is blamed too.What the hell!

Is becoming a big star in this country is crime?That's the reason students those who get higher education want to set abroad.They know that the politics in this country can destroy their future.It can make them suffer.Then we say that nobody thinks for the nation.People are getting self-centred and so on.

Is this the way India seeing the dreams of becoming a super power?Where senseless issues become the issue of reputation for the ruling party of the country.A party which called itself secular get mad only because the biggest star become the brand ambassador of a state,ruled by the opposition party.

Don't know where this country is going?

WHY WE WANT DAVID HEADLEY?

Since US has captured David Headley,There is a debate started in India,if he should be handed over to India or not.Everyone is saying that when Ajmal Kasab was captured,US investigation agencies came and questioned him easily,so its now its time for US to pay back to India.

There is a group of people that say that D. Headley is the culprit of India and he must be handed over to India for further prosecution.News is that Headley was the double agent,he also worked for the US intelligence.

If we think in terms of right and wrong,he should be handed over to India,but practically I don't favour it.In my opinion he should be punished in US.

The reason is that everybody knows the loop holes of Indian system of law.Every criminal use it for his/her protection.Take the example of Kasab.He was caught by the cameras during 26/11,whole the world saw him on TV,but he is not even ready to commit that he is the same guy who was in the CCTV footage of the that day.Every month he say something new to confuse the court and to delay his punishment and we listen and see him helplessly.He is now saying that he came here in India as a visitor and only because he is a Pakistani,Mumbai police caught him.He says that he is innocent.

I mean,what the hell man! He is making fun of us,in our own country.He is making fun of the people who were killed in that attack,he is making fun of the soldiers those sacrificed their lives to save others.Have you ever thought,what would be the feelings of the relatives of those who lost their lives in that tragedy?

Its more than one and a half year since he in the police custody,giving him the best security,spending a huge amount of money on his protection and wasting our time to punish him,but he is still safe,he hasn't got the punishment yet and who knows when he will be punished?We can't say anything.We have seen the speed of judgment in the case of Mumbai blast of 1993.

So its better Headley is left for US.They will handle the case better than us.I mean,he came here,lived here for a long time,made plans of destruction,did what he wanted and we were sleeping,we came to know about him when he was captured by US.So why we want him now?We know that its must for us to question him but in my opinion its better to do so in US.Its better for all.

EDUCATION FOR SALE...

India,which was known as the land of education once,is now going to import education.As the UPA government has prepared to present the bill for inviting the foreign universities to give their services in India.The reason being given for this,that millions of the students could not join any college because there is a lack of universities in India.


But I don't think that the lack of universities is the only thing behind this problem.There are many others also.Such as the poor educational infrastructure,lack of facilities and the poor result of the secondary level classes.


But the biggest reason behind that is the unemployment,Yes,most of the students leave study after class 12th because they don't have the funds to get the higher education.

This bill may improve the quality of education in India by creating a fear of competition among the Indian Educational Institutes.But don't you think that it's like accepting the defeat?Our government is not serious to improve the quality of education and the infrastructure of the domestic institutes.


But is this the only solution to solve this problem? No.

The only good thing,this step of government can do for the country is that the students wont have to go abroad for to study in any foreign university.They will be able to get a degree of world class university staying at home.


But will this be cheaper than going abroad?May be not,because if any university will open its campus here in India,they will have to invest and then they will also find ways to earn more profits.So expense wise its not going to be cheaper.

Actually,this is not going to be a solution for this problem,rather its going to create some new problems for the Indian students,as well as the Indian society.

As this will increase the differences between the upper and middle class of Indian society because everyone is not going to be able get the admission in these universities.This will increase the pressure and the competition among the students.

For the upper class it is going to be a status symbol,they will become more snobbish then.The middle and the lower classes will suffer with a feeling of incompatibility.This pressure may also give one more reason to commit suicide to students,as a result the rate of committing suicide by students may be increased.

I think government should try to improve the basic education first and then they should try to increase the number of universities in the country.There is a lack of funds for the colleges.They don't have the enough money to spend on researches.So government should try to look at that side first.Rather than making education a business.

And if they are so eager to do so,they should propose Indian business houses to enter in this field and do something for it.

NOTHING TO CELEBRATE...

Its woman’s day.I think this is the funniest day we celebrate.What a society we have! i want to talk about India.We always say that we have a great culture and great respect for women.We worship women,but only the idols,not the living one who live with us.We are afraid of the idols but we always harm the wives,mothers,sisters etc.We worship goddess Durga twice in a year,for nine days each time,in the festival called 'navratri',I have seen that people are afraid of goddess Durga as she is supposed to be furious.For these nine days,small girl children are treated as the goddess Durga herself,they are served by all,but in the same country,we read the news in the newspapers that a four year or ten year old girl child has been raped somewhere in the country.What an irony! I didn't want to write this line but I had to.

I wont say that all men,but most of the men consider women,an object.I’m a young guy but when i see some of the people of my age,calling girls with names which indicate them as objects,i feel pity for those guys.Its the biggest true that we can’t live without women,she give birth,feed us and teach us to stand on our feet,but when we learn everything we started thinking that women are just for using.

More than 80% of the Indian women pass their lives as struggling housewives.They scarifies whole life,for their families but get nothing except some physical harassment of her husband and her in laws.She is always expected to give birth to a male child.Even elder women of the family think same as men.They are compelled to not eat for the whole day,for many days in a year,which we called a fast.why not men?In India,the days like 'karwachauth' are the symbol of the love between a husband and wife,but what is the relation of remaining hungry for whole day,even they can't have water.What the crap man! I think its a crime against women,even if each woman do it willingly.

Now talk about the security of women in the world.They can not go anywhere fearlessly at night,not even on the day time.I saw a report in the news paper,previous day,which was showing that the crime against women are increasing every year.The report was showing the government's figures,but in real the number of crimes against women is much more.Specially in India, most of the people don't approach the police station in case of rape or any other kind of crime against woman,because even in case a girl is harassed,people see the girl suspiciously.In most of the cases girls don't inform their families about what has happened to them.If parents come to know about it,they avoid to file a report,because they are afraid of the society.They know if the news spreads,it would be difficult for them to face the society and it would affect the marriage of their daughter.Marriage,which is considered a burden by the parents of a girl.

Politicians make promises,but what about the ‘women representation bill’ in the parliament.It is waiting for more than fifteen years to be passed.They say that women should be given 33% reservation in the parliament.but why? why shouldn't’t they be given 50% reservation,if it forms the 50% of the population of the world.

I think they can run a country better.Because women are more honest than men,and that is the thing our country needs the most today.

I just want to say through this post that a few women’s day doesn’t only mean to have few women like Indira nuyi,Kalpana Chawala,Soniya Gandhi etc.The women in India are still suffering with the ordeals of life.They have got the fundamental rights but unable to use them.So don’t celebrate Women’s day,first make every women able to understand what they are and most importantly the so called 'Men’s World' have to understand that whole of this civilization is because of women.So respect them.